Mom Shaming.

Let me just start this post out with… I AM SO SICK AND F’N TIRED OF EVERYONE MOM SHAMING.   I don’t understand why people find it necessary to have to constantly push what they do for their kids onto other parents.  Like, being a mom is hard enough on its own without someone judging every little thing you do.  Example::

You breastfeed; good for you.  You can’t or don’t breastfeed; you are apparently a HORRIBLE mom because you’re not giving your baby nutrition from your body.    Now I have heard this one a lot.  I wanted to breastfeed, more than anything.  I hadn’t even bought any bottles or formula or anything.  Well, she latched on a couple of times when she was born, but then she got sick and was in the hospital.  During that time, she didn’t even attempt so I started pumping.  My supply was so low, even with POWER PUMPING (cause yes, I’ve heard “well you need to power pump to get your supply up”) that I couldn’t keep up with how much she was wanting to eat.  And you know what?  My daughter is as chunky as can be being formula fed.  She has met all of her milestones, earlier on some, and she’s already eating baby food.  In my opinion, a FED baby is all that matters.  Whether you breastfeed or formula feed, as long as your baby is eating and getting the nutrition that he/she needs is all that matters, and you are a GREAT mom either way.

VACCINATE OR NOT VACCINATE::: This is by far one of the WORST ones when it comes to mom shaming.  Give me a freakin’ break.  Parents make their own decisions when it comes to their offspring.  Do NOT make them feel bad for their own decisions.  I vaccinate my baby, and I will always vaccinate her, and all my other kids that come after her.  The reason all of the diseases from before our time are coming back, is because people have decided they do not trust the vaccines.  More times than not, when a child gets sick after their vaccinations is because a virus/infection/etc was already dormant in their bodies and something(maybe the vaccine) finally awakened it and set it off.  I would rather be able to use preventative measures to protect my child of these illnesses than to see her get sick with one of them.  I know she will have to have boosters as she ages, so does everyone else who gets vaccinated.  The doctor who CLAIMED that the MMR vaccine was a cause for Autism was a HUGE PHONEY.   He had his license revoked for cheating his tests pretty much.    So, that is my opinion.  If you don’t vaccinate, okay.  That’s your decision.  I’m proud you made that decision.  You’re a good mom, either way.  Just like I am a good mom for deciding to get my daughter vaccinated.  DO NOT PUSH THE WAY YOU BELIEVE ON OTHER MOMS.  I don’t understand why moms are so RUDE and MEAN about the way they voice their opinions.  Also, if you are going to fight someone about it, at least get your facts straight.

Baby food/Baby Led Weaning:  Start your baby on whatever food that you feel is right for your baby.  Elizabeth eats jar baby food, and food off of our plates and she absolutely love it.  We also make our own, too.  You do whatever you feel is right for your baby and your family.

There are so many more that I can discuss, but these are the mains ones  for the day that I wanted to point out because I’m fed up with everything.  No, I don’t have many mom friends, and this is why.  I honestly don’t care.  My husband and I do what we think is best for our child.  That is all that matters.  But thanks to all the moms who have shamed other mom’s so hard, for making them feel like they aren’t good enough and second guessing the way they raise THEIR baby.  I hope you feel good about yourselves and I will definitely be praying for you.

Big props to the moms who are just trying as hard as they can to not give up.  It’s hard.  But you got this, momma.  God will never put you through something that you cannot handle.

BNH

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When life gets you down…

When life gets you down , just pick yourself right back up and brush yourself off. That’s what I am having to learn to do. The past couple of weeks have been very hard on me with my anxiety and depression . I missed a whole week of work because I didn’t want to get out of bed 🤦🏻‍♀️ I am still behind on homework assignments because of the rut I had gotten myself into. I’m not sure what had gotten me so depressed , I think it’s a combination of bills , being overwhelmed with being a mom , student, and working. Just a combination of things.

This week though , I made sure to start it out better and so far so good. It’s Wednesday night and I am still smiling and feeling good about myself . I have worked this week , and I have started a bullet journal (pictures will be below). I am pushing myself to go to bed early and wake up early and stay awake , even on the days I don’t have to work . Today I volunteered with hospice for the first time in the office and I loved it. I’ve also been working on my schoolwork.

The pictures above are of my bullet journal thus far. I am also doing a daily bible study. I’ve fallen a little bit behind on that , so I need to pick that back up.

Tomorrow I am getting our groceries for the month , so if anyone has any advice on things to get that will actually last us all month , that would be awesome. I have actually started a meal plan for the whole month , and I only have a couple of days left to decide what to cook. I’m hoping with me creating a schedule , my life won’t be near as hectic!

Our baby girl turned 5 months old this month . She has two teeth that have cut the gums , she loves mixed vegetable baby food and banana flavored cereal. She loves playing in her walker and bouncer and knocking things off the table. She has a habit of holding onto mamas hair while I’m rocking her to sleep at night 😍 she’s my pride and joy.

Off to a Bad Start

I have been off and on writing different blog posts and I can never finish them to post them so I have decided to start on a new one and sit here until I actually finish it.  This year has not started off very well.

This past week has been really rocky.  Last Friday, I picked Elizabeth up from daycare because her temperature had went from 99.1 to 100.7 in less than 30 minutes.  I wound up taking her to the doctor because by the time I had gotten home, it was 100.9.  They tested her for the flu and RSV and she was negative for both.  They said it was just an Upper Respiratory Infection and to give her Tylenol for her fever.  Well, Saturday she was so lethargic she could barely eat.  Her fever had gotten to 104.7.  The beginning of the day she wasn’t as bad and ate like normal, but her fever was high so I called her doctor.  She said it was fine, to keep giving her Tylenol as prescribed.  Then around 2-3 pm, she was to the point where she didn’t want to wake up to eat and when she would wake up, she would cry.  So we wound up taking her to Fast Pace, where she tested positive for Flu Type A.  They gave her Tamiflu and told us to use Tylenol. Next day she was back to being our happy baby.  Then on Wednesday, she had her four month shots, and she would have cried if she hadn’t lost her voice from all of the coughing she had done the past few days.  It is Sunday now, and she’s so much better.  I’m so happy.

Then Dustin got sick, and he was laid up in bed the whole day he was sick.  I was  hoping I wouldn’t get it, but now I have it.  I don’t have the flu, but I have some kind of congestion funk in my head that won’t go away.  My right ear keeps stopping up and making it where I can’t hear, and my throat has been bothering me really bad.  But, I’m gonna just keep on keeping on.  Can’t let some sickness wear me down.

Our weather this week has been crazy.  It was supposed to snow, and we barely got any.  But it had rained before it snowed, so our vehicles kept getting stuck in the mud in our driveway.  Thursday I actually had to call a towtruck to pull our truck out.  It was such a pain in the butt.

But, I have decided about my New Year’s Resolution.  I know, I know, nobody ever keeps their resolutions and they are normally like “Oh, I’m going to lose weight” or “I’m going to eat better and drink less soda.”  Not me.  Mine is to get closer to God.  I want to show Elizabeth that her mommy and daddy are faithful in the Lord.  I want to be a more Godly wife and mother.  I know it’s going to take a lot of work, and I’m not going to see any changes right away.  But I want to do this.  A lot of things have happened this year that has made me realize how great our Lord is.  Tomorrow I will be starting a new book.  “Becoming the Woman God Wants Me To Be”  and I also have a mom bible study that I am wanting to start soon.  In Sunday School class, we are doing a couples Bible study.  My main focus as of now, though, is to be able to make time everyday for God.  Either in the morning, or after Elizabeth goes to sleep.  I need to figure out what works best for me.  That is always my main problem.

School has also been really rough on me because I am now doing two classes, and one is History, and I am not good at it.  Every assignment from both classes are due on the same day, and because everyone had gotten sick last week, I had to cram to finish my assignments on time.  I’m praying I don’t have to do this again this week.  Tomorrow I plan on working really hard on schoolwork.  I already have the dishes done and bottles washed for tonight, so I’m hoping I won’t have much housework to do.

I want to thank everyone for reading my blog and being patient with me.  I think I am finally starting to get a little better at finding stuff to write about.  I just hope I am keeping you all entertained and you’re not bored reading this.

BNH

Never Give Up; Anything Is Possible

So I know that I am horrible at keeping up with my blog, my apologies. The past few weeks have been hectic, and the last week has been rough. We’ve all been going back and forth with whatever sickness is going around because of this stupid Tennessee weather. I’m still sick. Both of my ears are killing me , and I’m so stuffed up I can’t breathe at all. I’ve been taking daytime and night time decongestants, hot tea with honey and lemon, and I’ve been using Vicks. I’m trying to make sure Elizabeth doesn’t get sick again, because she had a bad cold a week ago. I also don’t want to make Dustin even sicker than he’s been. I’m wanting to get rid of this funk before Christmas because it is Elizabeth’s first Christmas, and I want to be feeling better and have a great day!
I have been thinking about what to write about on this post, and I am still having different thoughts going back and forth, so this may be a long one, I’m not sure yet. Since Christmas is in 3 days, I plan on writing about this year in a whole, then my next post will be about the New Years and what we are hoping will happen in 2018.
So this year I have gotten married, had a baby, started college, and became a substitute teacher. All of which are the most amazing things to me and have taught me so much about myself and life.
December 22, 2016, we found out that we were going to be having a baby. I remember it exactly. I had been extremely sick all through Thanksgiving and I had felt like something was going on. I just felt different. Then my sinuses started getting really bad, so me and Dustin went to Walmart to by allergy medicine and I told him I was just going to get a pregnancy test just to see. I mean, what could it hurt? I was supposed to start my period the next day, but I wanted to go ahead and take one. I was in the bathroom waiting for the results and Dustin was in the living room. I didn’t want to look, because we had been trying for 7-8 months to get pregnant, with no luck, so I was scared. When I saw those two lines, I screamed. Dustin ran in the bathroom thinking something was wrong, and I was just ran and hugged him and started crying. It was the most amazing thing. I was still so scared, I was thinking that it couldn’t be real because I hadn’t even missed a period yet, and the lines were so clear. So I took another one the next morning, and it was two very clear lines. Then again, just to make sure, I went to our local health department and they confirmed it. Now we have a 4 month old.
March 05, 2017, we said “I Do”. It wasn’t the ideal wedding that we were planning for. We had the date set for August 25, 2017 and on August 26, 2017 we were supposed to get on a plane to go to Hawaii. Honestly though, it didn’t matter to me because we were getting married and having a baby. I was over the moon in love with Dustin, and I still am. Everyday with him is like falling in love with him all over again. I’ve never been so happy. We wound up having our wedding in my uncle’s front yard down where my parents live. We only have close family come to see it, so for those that were not invited, don’t take it personally. We didn’t invite many people. Then after we got married, we wound up shooting guns. It was sprinkling, and after being outside all day in a dress, I was extremely sick afterwards. I went to bed super early on my wedding night because I could barely hold my head up. It was still the best day. Dustin makes me so happy, and I couldn’t imagine my life without him. He shows me everyday how much he loves me.
August 20, 2017 I was in the hospital getting induced to have our baby girl. Now, we have had a lot of people wondering why our doctor induced me since we weren’t having any health problems and she wasn’t due for another 6 days. The reason being, I was in latent labor for almost 2 months. My contractions stayed 2 minutes apart constantly and I wasn’t sleeping or anything because I was in so much pain. She decided since I was full term, to go ahead and induce me because I was back and forth in the hospital when I was only dilated to 1 ½. They started the induction at 4pm on Monday, and had her at 4:27 pm on Wednesday. I was in labor for 46 hours. But she was worth every minute of it. My epidural stopped working about 3 hours before I had her. I felt everything, but after I seen her beautiful face, it made the pain completely go away.
Now Elizabeth is 4 months old and over 14 pounds. She loves sweet potatoes, carrots, and her cereal. She is now holding her own bottle, and she babbles constantly. Her laugh is the cutest thing I have ever heard. Her smile makes my heart melt. She sleeps through almost the whole night, sometimes waking up just once to eat, then she’s back asleep. She has such a big personality. She can go from laughing to crying in just a split second. She loves her daddy, and she loves daycare. She is doing great at sitting up. She’s not very fond of peas. She is obsessed with the rattle that her Aunt Abbye sent her from Texas. She’s so loved and so spoiled. Elizabeth Nichole is our miracle sent from God.
I also started CTU online this year. My final grade in my first class was posted this morning, and I have a 4.0 gpa! I’m so happy. It was rough trying to figure out how to schedule in studying, working, cleaning, and spending time with Elizabeth, but I finally figured it out (for the most part) and worked as hard as I could and it paid off. On December 29, I get to view my next classes, which are Modern American History, and Spreadsheet Applications. I am extremely nervous about those. This first class was about teaching us how to study and making schedules, setting goals, etc. Now all I need is a new computer, because mine just recently started messing up. But right now, I’m hoping it’ll last until I am able to afford a new one, which probably won’t be for a little while.
This year has also put me closer to God. I am so thankful for everything He has done for me and my family. I love studying in my bible. I’m hoping that this next year I will be able to finally read the whole bible. That’s been one of my goals for a while, but I’ve never had the motivation. We have started a new Sunday School class in our church and it’s for young married couples, and I love it. It has taught me so much already. We are learning about the couples in the bible right now.
I also started a new job this year. I wasn’t expecting to start working so soon, but I had the opportunity and I am so glad that I accepted it. I am a substitute teacher, for Maury County. It is still a little difficult because I am working on my confidence. But the past few times I have substituted has helped me with that. I’m more confident with getting the students to listen to me. I know I have to work on it more, but I will get there. It just takes time, and practice. I really enjoy working in Special Ed classes. They have taught me so much.
I know that this blog post has been a little everywhere and jumbled. This year has been so amazing, and I have learned that no matter what, don’t give up on your dreams. If you work at something, you will achieve it, just don’t give up. Life happens, remember that. Sometimes I feel like I’m losing myself, but I remember that God is always there, and so is my family.

So I started this post on my Microsoft Word before Christmas, and now it’s the day after Christmas and I have still not posted it online. I’m very bad at procrastinating, and I really need to get better at that, but I am going to post this now, and then write another post by the end of the week ( hopefully). Thanks guys for being so patient!

BNH

Motivation

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I’m going to start this off with, I can’t believe tomorrow is Thanksgiving!  Last year on Thanksgiving, Dustin proposed to me!  This year will be Elizabeth’s first Thanksgiving!  I’m so excited!

Alright, so my online classes have started.  Right now I feel like all I am doing with my time is studying when Elizabeth is asleep.  I don’t mind it, because I’m a nerd, but with the migraines I get, it’s a little difficult.  Right now we are talking about stress management, time management, etc.  We have a live class tonight, and my teacher wants us all to share our favorite motivational quote.  I have a couple that I really like:

“If you want to achieve greatness stop asking for permission.”

“To live a creative life, we must lose our fear of being wrong.”

“If you are not willing to risk the usual you will have to settle for the ordinary.” – Jim Rohn

” All our dreams can come true if we have the courage to pursue them.” – Walt Disney

” Success is walking from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” – Winston Churchill

Those are my favorite ones, now time to decide which one to use for tonight.  We have gotten 3 grades so far, and as of now I have an A!  I’m so happy.  Following my dream is scary but exciting.  I’m just so happy I have such a great support system.  If it wasn’t for my husband, I don’t know where I would be right now.

Now to talk about my new job!  I accepted the job as a substitute teacher.  I have only worked one day before they were off a week for the holidays, but I have plenty of assignments already scheduled before Christmas break starts!  My first assignment was for a Special Ed class in an Elementary School.  I absolutely loved it.  Being in there with those kids taught me so much and just changed my perspective.  It was a great first day of work.  At first I had only accepted Elementary Schools, but I felt like I was missing something.  I talked with Dustin, and I decided to add middle schools and see how I liked it.  I may not enjoy older grades, but I want to try it and see.  I know though that I do not want to substitute in high schools.  I’m very short, and I am just not confident enough yet to sub in a high school setting.

Dustin and I have been going to church (as often as we can), and our church has started a new Sunday School class for young married couples.  We are very much enjoying it.  Last Sunday we studied Adam and Eve.  Our challenge for this week is to not blame our spouse.  Last night me and Dustin were sitting in our living room, he was watching TV and I was studying.  I don’t really remember what he had said that had started the conversation, but it ended with him telling me “I’m sorry, I know I shouldn’t blame you, it’s not you, and I shouldn’t make it out to be your fault.”  Guys, that made me so happy.  To know that he is actually paying attention in Sunday School and is doing our lesson with me means so much.  I mean, we are always telling each other everything.  We’ve always thought our relationship is completely different from others.  We have put God first since the very beginning.  We work together as a couple.  He always encourages me to do what makes me happy and even though what we are going through right now is stressful, God knows.  God won’t put us through anything we can’t handle.  I wasn’t expecting to go to work so soon, but I was given a great opportunity, and Dustin knows that I enjoy it so much.  But working, going to college, cleaning the house, having a 3 month old baby, and trying to have a social life is challenging to say the least.  When Elizabeth takes a nap, I have to decide between studying, cleaning, or resting.  It’s not easy.

I know I brag on Dustin a lot, but don’t think we don’t get into it sometimes.  Like all couples, we do argue.  It’s not often but we do.  We get on each others nerves sometimes.  I know some days he would like to strangle me, and some days I would like to punch him in the throat.  But those aren’t very often.  Some days when Elizabeth is asleep, we will go and sit outside and just talk.  We talk about his day at work, we talk about what I did at home that day, just random stuff.  Sometimes it’s serious and deep conversations, and sometimes it’s not.  Some days we just sit in the living room playing video games or watching tv and don’t say more than a few words to each other and we are still completely comfortable with that.  We always talk about how we are meant to be together, how God put us in bad situations at the beginning so we would have the opportunity to meet.

Now I’m going to talk about my child.  Elizabeth will be three months old tomorrow, and she is already wearing size 2 diapers, and 3-6 month clothing!  She is able to play with toys.  She can grasp rattles and blankets.  She loves her swing.  She loves pulling her pacifier out of her mouth, then screaming for one of us to put it back in, just for her to do it again.  She loves cereal.  She sleeps pretty much all night.  Her bed time is in between 5:30-7.  She still loves being swaddled.  She loves Minnie Mouse and Donald Duck.  She loves watching Superhero cartoons.  Every morning when you look into her bassinet when she wakes up, she gives you a huge smile that just melts your heart.  She’s growing up so fast and even though that makes me happy, it also makes me so sad.  She’s so smart, and so chunky.  I love my baby girl more than anything in this world.

Last thing, since tomorrow is Thanksgiving, I just want to put here what I am thankful for.  I am thankful for God, and for everything He has done for me and my little family.  I am thankful for Dustin ,and for Elizabeth.  I am thankful for my best friends.  I am thankful for my family, and my in-laws.  My church family.  I am just so thankful that I am given the opportunity to have so many great people in my life.

 

BNH

A new chapter in life

Hey guys! 👋🏻. So I know it’s been a little while since I have posted , and trust me, I’ve been meaning to but life just gets in the way sometimes . I’m going to try to make a post at least once a week , maybe every two weeks. Depends on the way life is going at that moment in time. 😝

My husband , Dustin has gotten a new job. He seems to like it , which I am glad . He’s on first shift now. I am so happy about that . It’s very nice being able to spend more time with him during the day , and have him next to me at night . 

I start online classes in less than two weeks! 🤗 I am so excited! I am getting my associates of accounting degree. This first 7 weeks I only have one class , so it won’t be too bad. 

This week I also got a great opportunity . I received a phone call on Monday for a job offer to be a substitute teacher in the county over . I talked it over with Dustin and I’ve accepted it! I had my orientation on Thursday , I chose to do all the elementary schools in the county . I get my fingerprints done on Monday , then I get to start accepting assignments on Tuesday!  I get to manage my own schedule , which will be great for school and our baby . I’m so excited for this! 

This new chapter in our lives is scary but so exciting ! God works in mysterious ways. But our God is amazing! Prayer works , guys! 🙏🏻 I wasn’t planning on going back to work this soon , but I feel like this is meant to be. Everything happens for a reason!

I have also been taking time out of everyday to read and study my bible! I’ve been trying to go to church every Sunday because we have an amazing Sunday school class , for young married couples! It’s so inspiring and eye opening. 

I just finished a three book series by gayle Forman. I started turtles all the way down by John green today! I’ve been so ready to read this book! 

Any substitute teachers have any words of advice for me ? This is a completely new experience! 

BNH

Such a pain

It’s been a little while since I’ve posted . I need to get in the habit of posting more , but sometimes I just don’t really have much to say . Ya know ?  Hmmmm…

Well, Dustin bought me the iPhone 6 this week , which I am in love with , btw. He also surprised me with a new nightmare before Christmas shirt, too. (As seen in picture above👆🏻) 

This weekend I let my parents keep Elizabeth for the first time overnight . I was a nervous wreck at first , but with Dustin reassuring me, I relaxed . When she saw me the next day though , she was in all smiles 😀😀


I went back to the doctor today so she could check my iud. Everything is perfect with that .  She started me on a new medicine for my migraines . Yesterday I started having very bad pain in my right side , so we’re trying to figure that out .  She did a urinalysis and it came back negative for everything she could check at her office, the culture should be back within a couple of days. 

     Right now I have a baby with a bellyache😢 . She’s calm one minute and the next she’s crying again , but I’ve given her some gas relief drops and she’s starting to wind down now . Hopefully she will be asleep soon. 

     Did some shopping for her and myself today . We both needed some fall clothes. I got a few long sleeve shirts and she got some sleepers . She also got some new dr browns bottles. I love those bottles. 

    Well, that’s all for now folks!

Bnh