Marriage; It takes two.

It seems like almost every time I get on my Facebook, there is a post about someone’s marriage ending, or someone complaining about their husband or wife, putting the blame on the other one, blah, blah, blah.  Well, I’m here to put my two cents in about the matter, and to brag (of course!).

If you don’t think that you can put up  with the other person for the rest of your life, through the good times, and the horrible times then don’t waste their time or yours saying “I do.”  I hear a lot of people badmouth what the other one has done, or hasn’t done.  In my head all I can think about is, it takes two people to make a marriage work.  Not just one.  If both of you aren’t trying, then why are you married?  That’s not a marriage.

No marriage is perfect.  Every couple will always have their ups and downs.  That’s not what I’m trying to say here.  What I’m trying to say is that you have to be a team and work together.

Lucky for me, I have an amazing husband who is also an amazing father.  Want to know how we do it?  Communication.  We talk CONSTANTLY.  We both work, almost everyday.  I’m at home more often since I am only part time right now due to the pregnancy.  We call each other at least once a day just to say I love you and see how our days are going.  We help each other.  Just because I am wife and mom, doesn’t mean that he expects me to be the sole caretaker of our home and our daughter.  He gets two days off a week, and on his days off, he cleans , cooks supper, gives our daughter her bath and also takes care of me, letting me relax.  Even when he gets home after a long day of work, he asks me if I need anything, and he will help me clean up after supper.  Now, I do believe that the husband eats first.  I’ve always believed that.  The way we do it though, since he doesn’t get home until after 7 on the weekdays, and our daughter is already asleep by then, I feed her supper and I wait until he gets home so we can both eat together.  I love our quality time eating supper together, we get to talk all about our day.  On days that he’s off work, I fix our daughter’s plate and let it cool off, have him fix his, then I feed our daughter and then fix me a plate while he keeps her entertained.  This works for us.  It may not work for anyone else, but that’s what we do.

For me, the key to a great marriage is communication and being a team.  WORK TOGETHER.  Social media gets in the way and causes problems, because people tend to lean towards facebook to post all of their problems and that causes drama in a relationship.  Talk it out to one another, don’t post it for everyone else to see.  To me, that’s disrespectful and hurtful.  But of course, that’s just my opinion!

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